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To be a wonderful leader, one should possess combinations of some of the following qualities:

1) Leaders Have Good Communication Skills

Leaders are good communicators. They leave no doubt about the meaning of their message. That's what Stan Toler (2002) wrote in his book "Minute Motivators for Leaders". He added that communication process is not complete until the audience has both listened and understood the delivered message.

Bob Adams (2001) in his book "The Everything Leadership Book" said that effective communication skills are integral to any working partnership / team or personal relationship. Therefore, according to him, it is safe to say that good communication skills are one of the building blocks of being an effective leader.

2) Leaders Are People with Courage

Courage is largely habit and self-confidence. It is a valuable commodity on the battlefield or in the board room. Alan Axelrod (1999) mentioned this in his book "Patton on Leadership". According to him, General George S. Patton, Jr., one of the most decorated American heroes during World War II, believed that courage could be learned – acquired through practice.

According to Marshall Loeb and Stephen Kindel (1999) in their book "Leadership for Dummies", leaders learn how to suck up their courage, trust their instincts, and move ahead into the unknown, even when they're just as scared as their followers.

3) Leaders Pay Attention to Details

During World War II, in commanding the U.S. Third Army, General Patton understood that wet socks lead to trenchfoot and other conditions that keep a man from marching, wrote Axelrod (1999). Socks are a small and lowly item, but Patton realized that on dry socks (and healthy feet), the efficiency of his army depended.

On the other hand, lack of attention to details can result in tragedy. According to Seth Godin (1995) in his book "Wisdom, Inc.", the space shuttle Challenger exploded because a fifteen-cent rubber part did not function in unusually cold weather. Several brilliant scientists (and astronauts) were killed because this one tiny detail was overlooked.

Napoleon Hill (1937) in his book "Think and Grow Rich" mentioned about the mastery of detail, which was one of the 11 important factors of leadership. According to him, successful leadership calls for mastery of the details of the leader's position.

4) Leaders are Problem Solvers

"You can measure a leader by the problems he tackles. He always looks for ones his own size", wrote by John C. Maxwell (1999) in his book "The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader".

Every workplace will have some conflict, no matter how great the leadership team may be. Leaders need to identify conflict as early as possible and determine what kind of conflict is involved and its underlying causes. These remarks were written by Bob Adams (2001) in his book "The Everything Leadership Book".

5) Leaders Build Relationships

Building relationships based on trust was one of the topics covered by Ian Lawson (2001) in his book "Leadership". According to him, there are seven key behaviours / attributes in this area:

Not putting self-interest before the interests of your staff,
Keeping promises and doing what you say you will do,
Being in touch with and sensitive to other people's feelings,
Being calm in a crisis and when under pressure,
Being honest and truthful,
Not taking personal credit for other people's work, and
Always being fair.

6) The Leader as Team-Builder

Ismail Noor (2002) wrote his book "Prophet Muhammad's Leadership" that the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. is acknowledged as an exemplary team leader who knew how to get the best out of his principal lieutenants by understanding the true value of the human resource factor.

According to him, effective team-working stems from people complementing, rather than, rivalling, each other or merely co-existing alongside one another.

The leading members of the Majlis Syura or the Consultative Council during the time of the Prophet's governance were Abu Bakar As-Siddiq, Umar Al-Khattab, Uthman Al-Affan, Ali bin Abi Talib, Zaid bin Thabit Al-Ansari, Abd. Rahman bin 'Auf, Salmaan Al-Farsi, and 'Ubayy bin Ka'b.

7) The Leader as Visionary

In her book "Leadership Skills for Managers", Marlene Caroselli (2001) stated that for leaders to effect positive change, they must have a picture of what the improvement will look like. That improvement, on a small or grand scale, is called a vision.

According to Ros Jay (2004), vision is the ability to develop the future strategy of the business. In her book "The Successful Candidate", she wrote: "vision implies that not only can you see ahead and respond well in advance, but that you can also be pro-active, setting the trend yourself and setting how the business will look in several years' time.

"Wonderful leaders are comparable to eagles. They fly higher but not in flocks, like most birds".

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Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.

Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.

Let your feelings be known. They are important.Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk.

Value your thinking. You do it well. Take the time and space you need. Even if other people are wanting something from you.

When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't have it, it's ok to need.When you are scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.

When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do. When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger.

Decide what you want to do. Just feel it, express it, or take some action. When you're sad, think about what would be comforting.

When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow. When you have work to do and you don't want to do it, decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be okay if they say no. Asking is being true to yourself. When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.

When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them, and not with you. Ask someone else for what you need. When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you. Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want to make that happen.

When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head. You've moved into the future to something scaryand your body has gotten up the energy for it. Come back to the present. When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your feeling is not a commitment

When someone yells at you, physically support yourself by relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.

When you're harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something. Figure out what you need and get it. When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting. Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.

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Pada malam ini,saya terpanggil untuk menulis setelah membaca nota di Facebook di tulis oleh sahabat baik saya tentang "Di mana Allah".

Ketika solat kita sering gagal mencapai kesedaran berbicara kepada Allah kerana persepsi kita adalah Allah jauh di Arasy. Persepsi ini sukar untuk dibuang kerana ia telah lama tertanam di dalam minda kita sejak kita anak-anak lagi.

Persepsi dan apa yang ada di fikiran kita yang sering membelengu diri kita di dalam mengarahkan kesedaran kita kepada Allah.

Persoalan "Di mana Allah" adalah persoalan pokok yang penting di dalam mengarah kesadaran ketika solat.

Ketika bersembang dengan Pak Ustaz Abu Sangkan di lapangan terbang sebelum keberangkatan pulang Ustaz ke Jakarta, Pak Ustaz mengatakan tentang laut .

''Kalau sesuatu terjatuh di dalam laut, atasnya apa ? Laut bukan? Bawahnya apa? Laut juga.Kirinya? juga laut, bagaimana kanannya? Oh,laut juga.Lautnya ada berapa?'' tanya Ustaz .

''Satu!'' Begitulah juga dengan Allah, di mana pun kita mengadap di situlah wajah Allah.

"Allah Maha Besar? Sebesar apa? Besar sangat jawab anak-anak di dalam kursus yang kami anjurkan. Adakah sebesar bumi ini?" tanya saya.

Jawab mereka besar lagi.

"Adakah Allah ada disyurga?" Saya cuba memerangkap mereka. Ada yang menganggukkan kepala. Dan saya katakan,

"Wah,kalau begitu syurga lagi besar dari Allah?".

"Tak",jawab mereka dengan kuat dan tegas.

Mereka dapat mengerti seketika itu bahawa tidak ada yang lebih besar dari Allah dan saya katakan, Ya tidak ada yang lebih besar dari Allah dan Rasulullah saw ajarkan Allah Maha Besar atau Allahu Akbar.

Justeru, kita harus mempunyai kesedaran ini ketika kita mengangkat takbiratul ihram yakni "Allahu Akbar".Allah Maha Besar dan meliputi semuanya termasuk diri kita.Justeru ALLAH SANGAT DEKAT dengan kita! Kesedaran ini penting dalam solat.

Kesedaran Allah Maha Melihat.Ya,pastinya kita semua tahu Allah Maha Melihat. Tapi adakah kita berada di dalam kesedaran Allah Maha Melihat ketika solat?

Ustaz mengingatkan kita bahawa ketika kita solat,pastinya kita tidak dapat melihat Allah tetapi Allah melihat segala gerak geri kita, segala detikan hati kita.Bila hati kita bersambung dengan Allah ketika solat, pastinya seperti orang yang bertemu,ada rasa di hati.

Apabila kita mengadap-Nya dengan penuh kesedaran sedang berhadapan dengan-Nya dan sedang berbicara penuh hormat dengan-Nya,pastinya seperti orang bertemu dan berbicara ada respon dari yang sedang menjadi rakan perbicaraan.

Begitu juga pertemuan dan perbicaraan dengan Allah; Allah merespon.Allah menyambut kita.Ada rasa di hati.Ada getaran di dalam jiwa dan kemudian di aliri rasa ketenangan yang sangat hebat, tidak terbanding apa pun di dunia ini. Saya menamakannya syurga di dunia.

Tiga kesedaran yang saya sebutkan di atas:-

(1) Di mana Allah, Allah Maha Dekat dan Maha Meliputi semuanya.

(2) Allah Maha Melihat.

(3) Menyedari kesedaran kepada Allah ketika solat dan merupakan beberapa kunci penting di dalam mencapai solat yang khusyuk.

Hati dan jiwa perlu sentiasa terarah kepada Allah. Saat hati dan jiwa terpaling dari Allah, sesaat itu juga rasa hubungan dan getaran tadi hilang entah ke mana dan kita terpinga-pinga mencari kembali kesedaran itu semula.

Semoga sedikit sebanyak dapat membantu kita mencapai solat yang khusyuk dan dapat merasakan kesedaran di mana Allah tidak kira di mana kita berada.

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